I chose 'death in the age of Facebook' because I found this topic intereseting and relatable. In class we've talked about how technology and social networks have impacted our daily lives, because I'm so used to this I've never thought about the fact that how one grieves and deals with death has too evolved with technology.
The first article I found was written on a blog site by just an average person. She went to church with a man named Steven who was recently shot and killed. In her blog she writes about the evolution of grieving on Facebook connecting it to this event. She writes, "The memories of our loved ones will far outlive this particular strand of social networking. But in the meantime, Facebook’s new policy offers us a place to commune, remember, and grieve collectively, no matter how far-flung we are. No, it’s not a dirt-on-your-shoes cemetery. However, when normal life changes to something quite alarming, Facebook helps us grieve as we search for asterisks to explain what transpires in life and why." (Nancy French, http://www.good.is/posts/death-in-the-age-of-facebook/) I took this quote out of her conclsion. I feel that it is a very good representation of where she stands with this topic. Nancy is saying that our memories are a more promising way to remember a loved one but for now, while Facebook is popular and active that's how we will grieve. Right after the inital shock she talked about how Facebook turns into an open book for grieving, "I'm sorry", "I wish I could have helped", and "I miss you". Then it turns into a celebration of their life with stories, pictures, quotes, etc. It helps people learn and remember the times they had with someone. She said it "helps us grieve as we search for arterisks to explain what transpires in life and why". She mentions this because it is only a temporary way to grieve while we feel the loss and ask the natural questions, something technology can't help us do yet.
The second article was written by Lisa Miller for Newsweekly Magazine called 'R.I.P on Facebook'. She writes about Facebook's new policy where when someone passes their page remains active for friends and family to connect. She quoted Facebooks policy, "When someone leaves us, they don't leave our memories or our social network" and talks about how that is a positive helpful thing. In her article she also says, "This is how we collectively mourn: Globally. Together. Online." (http://www.thedailybeast.com/newsweek/2010/02/16/r-i-p-on-facebook.html) I chose this quote because I think it shows how differently we deal with death now in the age of Facebook. It's public and known to everyone but also creates a closer community for those close to that person online. She too speaks positively about Facebook and that it helps people through death but also includeds that it can't help you through all of the physical emotion with the loss of a loved one.
Both articles said that death in the age of Facebook doesn't fully replace the natural feelings and hurt with lossing a loved one. Facebook does offer a place for a loving community to be created about the loved one that can help friends and family through the death. How we deal with death is just like technology, always evolving and changing.
Both articles said that death in the age of Facebook doesn't fully replace the natural feelings and hurt with lossing a loved one. Facebook does offer a place for a loving community to be created about the loved one that can help friends and family through the death. How we deal with death is just like technology, always evolving and changing.
